BE EFFECTIVE!
A philosopher once said that life is in you today and you are constantly creating your own tomorrow. You are creating tomorrow, you are not creating yesterday. You are done creating your past, it is all finished. So you see, right this very second you are living through the consequences of your creations in the past. If you feel your life could stand a bit of improvement in some areas, well, lets start creating our tomorrow more efficiently and skillfully so we like it in the future when we live it!
Life at its best is an over-the-ramparts charge, life is action, life is brilliant triumphs and bitter defeats, life is lived by YOU. Obviously that can be stressful at times. We all run into this. So let's talk about stress. First of all, stress is not a medical condition and cannot be effectively handled with drugs. You are simply something vastly greater than a sum of the chemicals composing your brain.
Stress comes in the wake of bad habits and inabilities in life. Stress indicates overwhelm, it is a sign of inability and ineffectiveness in resolving life problems. People’s abilities vary but sooner or later we all reach our own stress threshold where the game of life is no longer fun. To word it differently, regardless of our abilities, we could all improve the level of our effectiveness in life and thus push our stress threshold ever higher.
Therefore, if you want to reduce stress, let’s be more effective in the art of living. Let’s be more responsible, skillful and competent in resolving our problems. Right now, today, you are fully capable of handling your stress and anxiety, you can improve your financial situation, regain control over seemingly hopeless situations, make your business more profitable and life more interesting, find love and joy in your personal relationships and yes, you CAN be happy!
Happiness is just a condition of enjoyment of life caused by reaching goals that you set for yourself. You cannot expect to enjoy life without any goals at all or without any possibility of their attainment.
If your life is filled with stress and anxiety here are several simple advices that will immediately help you. The first one is a general extroversion step.
1. Take daily 30-minute walks. Walks twice a day will be twice as effective. Just look around noticing various specific objects situated far away from you and close by, up above and under your feet. Simply walk and pay attention to the houses, cars, airplanes, lamp posts, people’s clothing and other things. Make yourself notice these things.
2. Put together a list of all the things you started but did not complete. This is the key point, definitely do it today. Any action has its END, an exact moment when the action is fully completed. It is not a vague or relative point, it is not a state of mind, it is very simple. An action is completed when you do not have to go back to it, no explanations or justifications are needed, it is FINISHED and there is just nothing more to say. It is DONE. Let us say, you are making a cup of coffee. You went through all the needed actions and here it is—a steaming cup of brew in your hand and the coffeemaker is clean and ready for future use. You are DONE! There is just nothing to qualify or explain so your attention is not stuck on that action anymore, you no longer think about it. If any of your actions do not fit this description, they are simply not finished. Write down all unfinished actions. Your attention is stuck on each of these actions creating the sense of impending doom. Simply make a list of your incomplete actions, large and small, and you will immediately calm down and your general disposition toward life will improve.
3. Now take that list and find in it one simple action that you could complete right now. Complete that action right now. Complete as many SEPARATE and UNFINISHED actions as possible RIGHT NOW. Sort out other unfinished actions, plan out how and when and what it is you need to have to get them completed. But try to complete as many simple things as possible today.
Listen, enough procrastinating already! Clean up your house. Complete that term paper. Finish that project at work TODAY! Get your love-life in order already. Throw the insecurities out the window, call him and tell him you love him. Or, if applicable, eject the bustard out of your life forever! Or if you are a man, get a grip on your inner child, or whatever it is you can comfortably grip, and give her that diamond engagement ring already! But of course, first you may have to complete some actions to make enough money to buy that ring! So plan things out and start completing actions according to your plan. Do not think about it, just do it!
Start with something simple. Definitely clean up your house and—this is important—put things in order—“order” being defined as neat and logical arrangement of things where you can easily find everything. Put your desk and kitchen table or counter in order, put your cloths and shoes in order, clean up your car. You will feel much better long before you get half-way down the list! The most important and wonderful thing that you may experience at this point is that unworthy and really unwanted goals, that you were preoccupied with just a few minutes ago, may clear out revealing your true goals that would actually benefit you and other people and contribute to your happiness.
4. Formulate your goals for a year or two. What would you like to accomplish in that time period? Not what somebody said you should. What do YOU want? Who do you want to BE? What do you have to DO? Okay, now, what do you have to HAVE to do that? Put together a plan. Based on that overall plan, put together a very detailed plan for today-tomorrow and start doing the targets RIGHT NOW. Actually do things. None of it is a mental exercise. Set only attainable goals for yourself, such as quitting smoking, becoming a vegetarian or completing a project of some sort. Finding a job is an attainable goal. So is taking a European cruise with your husband. This goal is fully attainable even if at this point in time you have no money and no husband! To a large enough degree this is just a matter of planning and completing actions. Please realize that if you are right now at point A and you know exactly the location of point B, and you start moving toward it and will continue moving toward it, you WILL eventually reach it!
To summarize, here are the points:
1. Take daily walks, notice objects that surround you.
2. Make a list of the actions you started but have not completed.
3. Complete as many simple actions as possible RIGHT NOW. Put your personal belongings in order.
4. Formulate your goals. Put together a plan of action in general terms (strategy). Put together a plan of action for today-tomorrow (a tactical plan) and start doing the tactical targets TODAY.
Do these steps. You will see as you go along that your stress and anxiety turn into the feeling of self-confidence and being in control over your life. You will become more successful in life, you find yourself being lucky more often and your life will bring a lot more happiness to you and people around you.
Have fun!
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